Just because someone told you something, doesn’t make it so. Harsh, but true. Yes it’s shitty, yes it hurts, yes it’s disappointing, but how much of your time do you want to allocate to someone analyzing why he said something, how he said it, and why it isn’t so anymore? And there lies the crux of the matter because, how much of your life are you willing to expend on trying to force someone to SEE you, to LOVE you, to VALUE you, to RESPECT you, to CARE for you, and do some bare basics in the quest for happiness? How much misery does it cost you to gain your drop of happiness? Isn’t there a cut off point where you have to recognize that you are unhappy and that your quest to be happy with that particular someone is actually making you unhappy? You will find yourself at the gates of unhappiness if you stake your love on an uncommitted party and then commit yourself to the painstaking act of trying to get them to commit. Never force your love on someone and certainly never try to persuade someone to love you because you will never trust that what you have is real, wholesome, and committed. When someone makes you work so hard for their affections, you’re permanently on the back foot because deep down you know you shouldn’t have to prove yourself to someone in this way.